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Author: The Virgin Nurse Subject: HELP PLEASE

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Registered: 07-23-2005

posted on 07-23-2005 at 20:15 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator

I'm a virign & my boyfriend isn't. So last night we were kissing (kissing was the furthest we had ever taken it!) & he started to finger me. When I went to the bathroom later I noticed that I had been bleeding a little like I would if I was on my cycle. Did he mess something up or what? Is my hymen broken? Also my major/minor libia (don't know which one!(lips)) are tender is that normal? There's also this discharge that I noticed after my shower this that normal? Am I even a virgin anymore? I'm just worried & confused. Could somebody help me
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posted on 07-31-2005 at 02:53 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator

hi im brittany and well im scard like u were and well the furthest i have gone with a guy is just a basic kiss and well im even scard to do that...i mean wut should i do i want to have sex sooo bad but im even scard to let a go go thro with going down ure did u let him i mean im so scard plez help me
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posted on 07-31-2005 at 03:30 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Don't Worry

You want to have sex and that is understandable, but if you are feeling very uncomfortable be careful. You probably should not have sex if you feel scared to do so. Take your time and wait untill you feel you are ready.

Perhaps, masterbating would help you. If you want someone to talk to write to me at

I wish you well.
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posted on 07-31-2005 at 17:35 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator

First of all, I can understand your afraid. My Bf tried to finger me by trying to unzip my pants while we were kissing...I pushed him off and hit him....If you don't want him to do it again, tell him.SPEAK OUT! Now, what happen is that your hymen broke which cause blood to appear. If you were finger, this is called ORAL SEX. Sorry to say, but your not a virgin anymore The discharge is know as "cum" in the sexual dictionary. It's suppose to keep your vagina clean and help you with your lubrication . If you need any more info..Email me at
Now this is when things get heavy. What you did could have caused you to get a STD. Having someone finger you can cause this. Talk to you Bf next time on how you feel.
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posted on 08-17-2005 at 02:25 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
it's okay

This last post is really scary. Ignore it, because there is not a single word of truth in any of it.

1. It's not called "oral" sex, for heaven's sake. "Oral" means "with your mouth." Look it up. It's called "fingering." Yes, you are still absolutely a virgin, and until a guy puts his penis inside you you will continue to be a virgin. No, that is not called "cum" which doesn't exist except in porn f licks nor is it "come." Women don't do that. It's called a discharge, and it can come (no pun intended) from anything between mid-cycle ovulation, which is completely normal and you can expect this every month for the rest of your childbearing years, or venereal disease WHICH YOU CANNOT GET FROM BEING TOUCHED!

Don't worry about it. I understand that you are scared because this is all new to you and you haven't had much information, but it would be a good idea to go to a library or even your doctor and get some real advice, not whatever nonsense this person who calls him/herself a "nurse" (where is that RN from, exactly?) is giving you. Please - find someone with credentials you can trust, and who can provide you with reliable information.
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posted on 08-24-2005 at 12:24 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Right ON!!

Right on Hika! I was wondering if that nurse was trying to scare that girl out of her mind!! You seem very knowledgable and I commend u for setting that straight!! Cause i was even confused for a second!!
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posted on 09-10-2005 at 12:43 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator

Well, a woman's vagina naturally cleans itself out on a regular basis... that could be the "discharge" you're noticing. And yeah, it sounds as if he broke your hymen, which isn't the end of the world (my first boyfriend broke mine the same way). You're still a virgin, so don't worry about it.

(Also, as for questions about "Nurse", click on her name to view her profile... she's just a 15 year old girl, not a RN, which explains alot).
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posted on 09-11-2005 at 17:07 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator

Let me clear this up first!
Just because my name has the word"Nurse" in it doesn't make me one. That's like someone
with the name "BIlover" and they maynot like both sex. Don't judge a book by it's cover. If you people are older than me, I think the wise thing to do was to tell them to see the Gyno or ask their parents about this. I have alot of things to clear up so get ready.
First of all Oral sex is sex You guys have different belief but don't point fingers and call me a liar. Second, "Cum" is in the sexual dictionary. If you would like to see for yourself, ask me to give you the web.Third, this person put thier trust into us for "INFO" that others may know and everyone let that person down. Don't judge me by my age. If this person came to this website to ask "ROOKIES LIKE US" that's right, I said it. ALL OF US ARE ROOKIES. They wanted to know the truth and they got it. This isn't "Happy Land" This is the real world. Fourth, Women can "cum". About 10% of women in the US can ejaculate like males. This is a DEAD ON FACT. Fifth, Masturbation can cause you to get a minor problem for females but it can easily be treated. Sixth, I want you all to define virgin and I dare you to say you can still be a virgin if you have Oral Sex (Partner) If you do, it's wrong.
If you still think I'm full of it, I will have diva, a College sophomore studying premedical biology and philosophical/religious studies to explain to you. I will try and have her respond A.S.A.P or I will try and get guy_virgin to respond. They will tell you everything I'm telling you now.
Thanks for listening.

BTW, here is a recent post from guy_virgin that has to do with this subject:


I think you might be confused on this one. It sounds like you define virgin as - someone who still has a hymen, but this simply isn't always true.
You can't give your virginity to yourself, you can only give it to another person, if you haven't had any kind of sex (oral, anal, or normal) then you are still a virgin.
Having a hymen is not the pivital point of being a virgin. Some women never have them, and some stupid women go around having sex, then go get a surgery to restore their hymen and tell their furture husband that they are a virgin.
Plus some women think they can give half the men on earth a blowjob and let the other half ram them up the butt and still call themselves "virgins" however these women are just in denial just because they might still have a hymen DOES NOT MEAN THEY ARE VIRGINS!
I already posted this under "should I wait ?"but I think it will certainly answer your question so I will post it again here

Alright, take a deep breath and say it with me: "Oral SEX."
Ever since the whole Bill Clinton/Monica Lewinsky thing, oral sex has been on everyone's lips (excuse the pun). The Clinton scandal raised a bunch of issues: Is oral sex considered "sex"? If you have oral sex, but "don't go all the way" (have vaginal intercourse), are you still a virgin? And is oral sex safe — or can it pass infection? (More on that later . . .)
According to some recent studies, most teenagers define "sex" as vaginal intercourse — they don't consider oral sex to be "sex." This isn't surprising, since that's how our culture has traditionally defined sex (which, incidentally, leaves out gays and lesbians altogether). So, there are a lot of self-proclaimed virgins out there who haven't "gone all the way," but will do "everything else but," including oral sex.
The abundance of these "technical virgins" definitely has a lot to do with how society views virginity — as a really big deal, especially for girls. Whether you lose your virginity on prom night or on your wedding night, it's your first time and it'd better be perfect and with the "right" person —
It is true that some people believe that an intact hymen — is proof of a woman's virginity. But many people don't believe the condition of the hymen is adequate for defining virginity. They know that it's possible for a woman's hymen to become stretched open even if she's never had vaginal intercourse.
Many teens say that "having sex" is considered slutty, but "just fooling around" is no big deal. Whether you're having intercourse or "just" outercourse — sex play that doesn't involve vaginal intercourse, like oral sex — many of the same issues apply.
Despite what some people might think or say, oral sex does count — because just as with intercourse, there can be emotional and physical consequences to consider.
When we talk about risk, it's often in reference to physical issues like sexually transmitted infections and pregnancy. But like intercourse, outercourse is sex play that also involves emotional risks. Will having oral sex change how you think about yourself and about your relationship? Will you expect more commitment or emotional closeness from your partner? Will you be doing it for the wrong reasons — like, because you think everyone else is doing it or because your partner is putting pressure on you?
It's true that if someone is only having oral sex, there's no worry about getting pregnant. But the physical risk of contracting a sexually transmitted infection is there. Studies show that teenagers, and the majority of adults, rarely use protection — a condom or dental dam — when having oral sex. Why? Explanations range from, "What's the point?" to, "I don't think it's a high-risk activity."
The risk of contracting a sexually transmitted infection from oral sex is lower than it is from vaginal or anal intercourse — but there's still a risk. There are only a few cases in which people may have contracted HIV through oral sex. But infections such as gonorrhea, syphilis, and herpes can be transmitted by having unprotected oral sex, too.
When it comes to oral sex, if you're not with a partner whom you know does not have an infection, then using protection during oral sex is key to reduce the risk of passing infection.
And all of this applies not only to teenagers, but also to everyone — including the president of the United States.

how many believe that no matter what sexual acts you engage in, you can still consider yourself a virgin as long as a penis doesn't enter your vagina?
It seems that maybe the rules are loosening a bit on this one, with some people being convinced that oral sex is not sex. In other words, you can blow the entire football team, deal out a few thousand handjobs, receive oral until you're raw, and even go for the occasional anal sex, but still say you're a virgin, if it's only by the slimmest of technicalities?
So do you think that even if a girl has a five-some--- gives a blowjob to a one, whilst simultaneously giving hand jobs to two strangers while getting shagged up the butt by the fourth , she has the right to consider herself a virgin? Is there really anyone out there delusional enough to think that she is a virgin?
Let's be honest. Any time a penis is inserted into ANY bodily orifice, or genitals come into prolonged physical contact with someone's mouth, virginity is lost. Granted, it's not quite the same as going "all the way," but it IS sexual contact, there IS insertion of some kind or another, and there is, ideally anyway , some kind of orgasm.
If you still aren't convinced then please answer these questions yes or no.
Are lesbians who have been given oral sex till they are raw still virgins?
Are homo men who get it up the butt till they are bloody still virgins?
What we've managed to do to virginity would be like rewording the Ten Commandments so that everyone feels that they haven't really committed any sins.
There are those women that believe that if they perform oral sex on every boyfriend they've ever had, and let him get his fingers sticky every now and then, that they're still virgins. Now they may bleed a bit the first time they have sex, but are they really virgins?
They have experience. I mean if she just lies there the first time you insert your member, but can play the flute on your instrument like she's written symphonies, has she really maintained her purity? At what point do we draw the line? When has the line between purity and experience been crossed?
I personally don't think that a girl who can inhale a kielbasa like it's a toothpick necessarily connotes the virgin type. If virginity lies in a hole and is not about experience, then our society has a very warped definition of what virginity really is.
Believe it or not, there are gals out there who will let you get into their anal canals, but will still aver that they are virgins. Anal sex, as well as oral sex (despite what Clinton says), has the word "sex" attached to it because that's exactly what it is. And once you have sex, you are no longer a virgin. Case closed.
So these women are under the illusion that as long as their vaginas remain untouched by the almighty penis, they can still claim to be pure. Pure crud, that is. And if men seem to think that this is a viable argument, then they're just horny and have no qualms about taking the back way in.

If you have had oral or anal sex already and you are thinking That you might as well go and have all the sex you want because you are not a virgin anyway, please rethink this. You can become a recycled virgin at anytime. You can have a second chance at being a born again virgin. Start really saving yourself for marriage from this point on. Then when you get married 3 years, 4 year, 10 years from now you can look at your spouse on your wedding night and say "I've waited for you for X amount of years. I've shown discipline in my life I can be trusted" Now that is special.
In a world were 7 out of 10 married couples under the age of 40 have some sort of infidelity you need spouse you can trust. What you do now is very indicative of what anyone can expect of you in the future.
If you don't control your sexuallity now why would anyone believe you would in the future?

I myself am a 27 year old virgin now and I only date virgins or time proven born again virgins who have been completely abstinent a minimum of 2 years, It might have to be longer depending on their previous sexual experience.
Anyone can change but sometimes you have to prove you have changed.
Any Questions? feel free to email me

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