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Author: s2weathers Subject: Divorce has killed me...
s2weathers
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posted on 07-13-2011 at 19:20 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Divorce has killed me...

My wife is Divorcing me after 11 yrs and 2 kids. She said she was over me 2 and half yrs ago. I never knew, because she wouldn't talk to me about anything. I would try to go on dates with her and she would have something come up or go out with her Daughter to clubs instead. I've been absolutely crushed by this. I moved out in November, In December she started to see a "friend" and its grown from there. 2 weeks ago she decided that she wanted to give another chance. I was hesitant at first but gave in. I mean I get my wife, house and kids back! Then a week into it, I found out she was still talking to this "friend" with txt msg of "I love u" and "can't wait to your face" and other "flirty" things while I was staying there and after we told family members and our kids that we where gonna work on it. I've been a skeleton of myself every since. I am no weak, sad mad and depressed to stay strong ne more. I'm looking for help. I can't keep doing this it hurts so much. I really don't have ne1 to talk to or hang with. I sit in my apartment alone, on my laptop and broke. I HATE THIS!!! I'm really wondering why I'm having such bad Karma. I brought her and her 2 kids into my world, my house at 19 and this is the thanks I get...I am not strong ne more...
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posted on 07-13-2011 at 20:47 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
its ok

It's ok to feel that way. In fact it's normal. So are you guys still trying to work it out even with this other guy in the picture? It's kinda like I said to another poster a while back....she has checked out and there's nothing you can do. I know what it's like to be left and divorced for another person and the cold truth is it sucks! Makes you feel like you are worthless and you think there is no end in sight and your whole world fell apart. That's exactly how I felt and still feel some days. It is just going to take time. My advice is to begin divorce proceedings as crappy as that sounds but if she is unwilling to let go of this new guy and you allow it to continue....then who is the sap? You are! So don't take that from her or anyone else in the future. I know you love her but at some point you have to draw the line. It's hard to find your strength but you will come out ahead. By the way you're not alone being broke and stuck with a bunch of crappy bills feeling terribly lonely. Those are just the unfortunate side effects of something this massive. But it does get better. I will chat with ya if you want. It really does help to talk to people even if they are strangers. Good luck man!
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posted on 07-13-2011 at 21:29 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
thanks

She filed for divorce back in March and Tuesday went down to sign the final copy before it goes to judge to sign off on. I appreciate the words and would love to continue to talk, I need and outlet someplace. I hope this will be it...I'm afraid of talking to a professional because I don't want them to drug me up or think that I'm crazy. I hope I'm not crazy :/ Thanks again
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posted on 07-14-2011 at 15:58 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Similar

'She filed for divorce back in March and Tuesday went down to sign the final copy before it goes to judge to sign off on. I appreciate the words and would love to continue to talk, I need and outlet someplace. I hope this will be it...I'm afraid of talking to a professional because I don't want them to drug me up or think that I'm crazy. I hope I'm not crazy :/ Thanks again'


Yo. I'm going through the exact same thing. And seriously I feel the exact same way you do. Lost. Empty. Angry. Lonely. Depressed. I can go on and on. I lie in my bed and watch the tv, (I'm still living in the house for the moment.) Thinking she'll walk through the door and wanting to work things out. But it never comes. She told me last night that if she could have me and not be married it would be perfect. I told her it just doesn't work that way. You can't have your cake and eat it too. Anyhow, hit me up anytime to chat, everything you've talked about, seriously. I'm right there.
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posted on 07-14-2011 at 16:07 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
yeah

If you don't want to talk to a professional that's ok. It is entirely normal to be depressed. I went to my general practitioner after my dad died and got on antidepressants and they worked for me. I chose not to go back on them after my divorce. Maybe it's an option for you during this tough time. Better than that in my opinion is exercise. Run, lift weights, join a gym, martial arts, whatever. Go to a thrift store or second hand sports store and for $25 you can buy all the old weights and barbells you will need to start. It's excellent for making you feel better. DO NOT start drinking excessive alcohol or any illegal drugs. I made that mistake and it doesn't help. Whenever you're feeling down run around the block or go to the park or library or something. Don't sit around by yourself while you're healing because it's honestly quite hard. Oh and also read what you can online and books about the divorce process. Hang in there guys it gets better!
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posted on 07-22-2011 at 12:01 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
UGH!

How can she be so happy and with somebody already! It freaking kills me inside. I recently started a new job..this week. It's on 2nd shift and i now have no social life at all. So I feel like I'm back to stage one where all I do is dwell on the past and her. I hate this feeling. I'm in solitary it seems....
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